Relationship Hick-Ups?

I read an article this morning on the '5 key skills to preserving a healthy relationship.' See if you agree, and perhaps gather your own thoughts on how you think a relationship should be handled when it gets complicated... here are some points from the article;

Be willing to forfeit: the win-win strategy

In order to love and be loved, you have to let go of an argument, and be able to see the reason why your partner is upset with you; understand and be willing to agree to it. When your partner recognizes your understanding and agreement to the problem, he/she will be more understanding towards you.

Get to the point, nicely

Don't try and 'teach' your partner to be 'better' at their shortcomings. Be honest about your own. You have to get your point across by being honest about your own weaknesses, yet, not to insult or attack your partner's.

Be positive

It helps to create a positive outlook: find/suggest the solution instead of adding more problems to an argument.

For me, the biggest discipline in a relationship is to accept your partner's character traits, habits, and general personality. We are all different, and we do things based on our own, personal, value system. These values are never the same for any two people. If you learn your partner's values - the things they enjoy most (highest level of fulfillment = highest value) - then you will be able to communicate your own values through theirs. You can have your own needs fulfilled by considering your partner's and vica versa. Once you show true love - acceptance of a person for who they are (i.e. appreciating their highest values), then you will recieve this in abundance from your partner too.

Only hard work pays off!!

I've referenced his tips before, and you can also find him on Facebook. Rob Riches is an American fitness model who documents his daily fitness routine, experience as a fitness model and provide an insight into his life 'in the gym.' I've learnt a few tricks and tips from him, and I'd recommend his site to anyone that's interested in building (better) muscle.

Check it out here:

http://robriches.ning.com

Or a direct link to his training blog:

http://robriches.blogspot.com

He is very dedicated to refining his skill to become the ultimate fitness model. And even the skinniest (or most overweight) guys want to build a little bit of muscle. And the first step is to feel inspired and willing to go the extra mile. You have to create the will-power (find inspiration and a reason why you're doing it). Then, training becomes a psychological process of having the discipline to train hard on a daily basis; to eat right and be strict with your diet plan; and to be dedicated throughout busy periods. Once it's set in your mind, there are no limits!

For me it's been challenging due to my first priority = my day job. I work in TV production since this is my ultimate passion. Yet, my love for fitness & training will never disappear. I want to have the balance. I'm already very strict with my diet - and my friends will attest to this fact. Thereafter I simply have to create the time to train for at least 1 hour per day. This takes much effort and encouragement - especially during winter (and having a World Cup on your doorstep!) - but I'm never losing faith and determination. And no one should.

As for the long term goals and dreams, those facets still need a lot of work - and, admittedly, I can't expect to achieve anything without a plan. A 6-month plan, a 1-year plan, and a 5-year plan. My financial plan; where I want to live; how I'd like to spend my time; etc - all of which, surely, need the proper research and planning! You won't achieve success in the gym, or with your diet, or, with your career, if you don't do the planning and research first. So, I gotta get my grind going and back to the drawing board. Many ideas, many plans = research needed!

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Supernova/World Cup

It's been a rad time on Supernova - the TV show that I work on for Supersport. This week we've had Danny K, Kabelo, Leon Schuster, Ryan Botha and Liquideep on the show. Word is that the show will continue after the World Cup. Exciting!

As for V_Entertainment, the other show I work on, for youth channel Vuzu, we are broadcasting an interview I did with soccer player Ryan Botha tonight. It should shed some light on the reasons behind him splitting with his ex-fiancee Natasha Shannon. Not a happy story. Great inserts thought, check it on Vuzu channel 123.

In the meanwhile, my brother is trying to get us tickets to the World Cup final - he insists that we should go to the final. I'd be very, very happy! Next week is also the much anticipated concert with Andrea Bocelli - which I can't wait for!

Alright, that's my quick update. Will write more laters!!

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Men's Health South Africa: Urban Challenge!

This is something I wanna do! Check it out!

28 November, Sandton City, JHB >>

http://www.mhurbanathlon.co.za

In the middle of a tornado

Hey! Whatsup! As you will notice, this is the first time I'm writing since 9 June, which was 2 days before the opening of the World Cup. It's been crazy. I've been in the middle of a tornado, but loving it, seriously enjoying every second! The atmosphere, the foreign visitors, the flags, the games, stadia, and the excitement is like a giant tornado that's sweeping through our country and leaving a wave of happy moments behind. It's all good. I don't mind working extra hours, putting in more effort and making sure I do whatever I can to catch the awesome vibe of the 2010 Fifa World Cup.

The only frustration I have is the hiatus between events/studio time/shoots, etc when nothing really happens, or I'm waiting for details to be confirmed. No time to rest! Lol. Also, I got sick last week Wed and still don't feel 100% /Grrrrr!!! / Gym=outta the question.

Well I'm gotta get into studio prep again, keep checking our show "Supernova" daily at 10AM on Supersport 203!

*PS: Never go through your day without having a purpose. That's my message for the day!

Shakira in town!

Last night I attended the launch of the new Sony HD 3D TV's - which, by the way, looks really awesome! They showed us soccer clips in 3D (that is something you have to experience, wow!!)

Shakira was the guest of honour, along with Freshlyground, Louise Carver, and the Vice President of the Sony Corporation, Mr Kiyoshi Shikano, with MC for the night, local comedian, Trevor Noah. Of course, I was excited to see Shakira. Sexy lady indeed! The picture above is perhaps not the best, but it shows the 3D screen with Freshlyground's Kyla & Zolani, sitting with Shakira and Trevor (at the very bottom you can see their heads from the stage below).

The best feeling however was to arrive at Nelson Mandela Square, Sandton City, and see hundreds of people (mostly foreigners), with flags, Vuvuzela's, and draped in the colours of their respective World Cup teams. It was the first time that I really experienced the World Cup fever! The time has come for Africa, and South Africa, to shine! I can't wait for the opening ceremony on Friday and the kick-off game at 4pm with our very own Bafana Bafana team vs Mexico. Even Madiba will attend the ceremony. A momentous occasion. I won't be at the stadium, instead, I'll be with friends at one of the FanParks that was created especially for this World Cup.

So, whether you're supporting South Africa, or not, or perhaps you don't even enjoy soccer; you just can't help but to join in on the fun; it's so uniting and uplifting, Gotta Love it !!!

Peace!

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