I read an article this morning on the '5 key skills to preserving a healthy relationship.' See if you agree, and perhaps gather your own thoughts on how you think a relationship should be handled when it gets complicated... here are some points from the article;
Be willing to forfeit: the win-win strategy
In order to love and be loved, you have to let go of an argument, and be able to see the reason why your partner is upset with you; understand and be willing to agree to it. When your partner recognizes your understanding and agreement to the problem, he/she will be more understanding towards you.
Get to the point, nicely
Don't try and 'teach' your partner to be 'better' at their shortcomings. Be honest about your own. You have to get your point across by being honest about your own weaknesses, yet, not to insult or attack your partner's.
Be positive
It helps to create a positive outlook: find/suggest the solution instead of adding more problems to an argument.
For me, the biggest discipline in a relationship is to accept your partner's character traits, habits, and general personality. We are all different, and we do things based on our own, personal, value system. These values are never the same for any two people. If you learn your partner's values - the things they enjoy most (highest level of fulfillment = highest value) - then you will be able to communicate your own values through theirs. You can have your own needs fulfilled by considering your partner's and vica versa. Once you show true love - acceptance of a person for who they are (i.e. appreciating their highest values), then you will recieve this in abundance from your partner too.
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