Find the Balance

After a breakdown in a relationship recently, I decided to consult a girlfriend that studies psychology. She recommended that I read Dr Demartini's book "Heart of Love." Now, most of us have emotional problems (albeit occasionally for some of us); and we get so worked up about it that we cause our bodies to shut down, and bring on feelings of total depression and hopelessness. Rubbish. Really. Demartini writes that the trick is to 'find the balance.' We are too easily focused on the 'disaster' of a disappointing experience (fighting, or losing, a loved one; job dissatisfaction; financial woes or similar). Yet, if you were to look at any situation more closely, you'd find that there's a very intricate process unfolding, which the universe has created to ensure the existence of every living organism. Nature, and life, works in balance. It's the law of physics, and you'll find it in your own life, if you discipline yourself to look for it. I found this to be truly the moment of awakening for me. It's not easy to explain all the detail in one blog post, but the most important facet to this theory is to see things as both positive and negative. When you experience the negative, you have to discipline yourself to find the positive in that situation/event. For example, when a person irritates you (negative), he/she is trying to tell you something about yourself that you need to work with in order for you to grow into a 'better' person (positive). Ultimately, we would all like to get along with everybody, and be a 'likeable' person.

Another example is accepting someone for who they are. All of us have a different set of values (things you prioritize in your life and live according to); and if you can understand that someone else's values will be different to yours - they'll judge differently, have different habits, interests, etc - then you'll be able to communicate to this person by appreciating their values instead of yours. This will result in someone liking you more since you speak to them through their set of values.

There are many examples, but my advice is to find this book and just read it. Make notes, study it, and learn the principles. It will truly make you love yourself more, and create a happier sense of understanding of people, and relationships. You don't need to worry anymore that you'll lose someone, for as long as you respect someone else's values, find the balance and show true love, you can't be denied love. Ever. And if you have to move on from someone that's not accepting you, then you'll never have to find fault with yourself, since you're honoring your own values and someone that respects that will appreciate you for being YOU.

*I'm flying from Johannesburg to Cape Town on Friday to visit my family on the West Coast. I am very excited. Have a blessed weekend!! And, spread the love!

Note to the Universe

I’d like to send a wish to the universe today: that I won’t be scared, or weak, or unsure, insecure, worried, stressed and hopeless in my quest to finding the true meaning for my existence here on earth. The light of this day should inspire me for I should be grateful for every privilege and every blessing that I have today. Whether it be my health, my physical strength, my knowledge, my family, or just as simple as knowing that I do have a purpose for living and being alive. Imbalanced emotions break my spirit at times, and it shows instability to the outside world, yet I believe it’s the process of growing and that the universe will gently nudge me into the right direction. Sometimes I have too much passion that gets interpreted as obsession or madness yet in my heart it boils over and I can’t ignore the voice inside, or the driving force that guides me to my destiny.

I make the mistake of reading people wrong, or trusting someone too quickly, or not trusting them at all, or being too kind, and giving, but sometimes care and affection are seen as being obnoxious and annoying.

Though people might say terrible things to you and attack your personality, it should not let you feel discouraged, or inferior. Anyone that hates you, once had to love you. Anyone that speaks badly of you actually does so because they are hiding their own jealousy and inferior complexes. Those that really care will be critical, yet they’ll embrace you for who you really are.

Upcoming Shoots for our show V_Entertainment!!

Excited for the upcoming week. Though, working hard to help a friend with some deals. Never shy away from being there for your friends. You don't know when the day comes for the help to be returned.

At V_Entertainment (the TV show I co-produce with Elana Afrika for Vuzu Channel 123, on satellite in Southern Africa); we are always happy to show the latest scoop. This Wednesday I'm shooting behind the scenes of the final episode for Survivor South Africa. We have more inside footage of Locnville's music and the 2 brothers behind it; and a look at P!nk's current 'Funhouse Tour.' Local stand-up comedian John Vlismas was taken to a movie viewing ('Men who stare at goats') and he reviewed it. Early May I'm also off to shoot with Trevor Noah (another local comedian, and, apparently these latter 2 guys don't like each other's work?); and then there's Grease the Musical at Monte Casino.

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My note for the day is to find something in your friends' personalities/strengths, and appreciate them for having this, and be inspired. Our strengths will never be the same, and we often judge/compare ourselves, and get negative. Rather, focus on the good attributes that someone close to you has, and say thank you. I'm happy to be blessed with the best of best friends. And for them I'll do anything and will always be willing to assist. They would do the same for me. In other fields, like your working environment, even the staff that assist at any store or restaurant, they also need the same respect and friendliness that you give to your loved ones. Be one step ahead. And it will be returned to you, five-fold!

Have a blessed day! XX

PS: Pic courtesy BlondeZulu feat new model Francheska E'Silva.

Supernova

Yesterday I had a meeting with the production team from Mnet (TV station) and discussed details of the new show we are putting together for the upcoming Soccer World Cup in South Africa. It will be targeting the sports crazy youth (13-22 year olds) with 3 vibrant presenters! They are building an impressive set for this show and the content promises to be very exciting and lots of fun (high profile celebrity guests, international music stars, soccer players, Gaming inserts courtesy PS3/EA Games, and much more!)

We are starting on 11 June - the day that the World Cup opens - on Supersport. Be sure not to miss it!!

Speaking of which, in 1998 I visited France while they hosted the Soccer World Cup. I was with a couple of friends and a tour group, and we were mostly in Paris. And, even though there were lots of foreign visitors, everything was actually so well organised that it seemed calm, relaxed and happy at all times. I hope that we'll have a similar vibe here in South Africa. I believe in the spirit of South Africa and therefore wish that we also have a 'happy' World Cup. Let's support our teams and welcome all visitors with open arms!!

**GYM**

Just an update on my progress at the gym. I have been pushing hard with my upper-legs and arms. These areas were neglected in the past and now is the time for me to get an all-round balanced shape.

See pictures below with 2 angles. Perseverance is the name of the game.

Have a blessed weekend.

Rocking Vintage baby!/@BlondeZulu

Thanks to SouthAfrican photographer BlondeZulu, I have some great shots to showcase that relate closely to those that American clothing label Abercrombie & Fitch often use in their fashion shoots and marketing material. I dig the black & white, vintage, old-school theme.

The shoot features new model Francheska E'Silva, and styling was done by ElizaRoza. Thanks to all the girls for a great experience!

See sample pics attached.

Wait 'till you see my smile

I got the new Alicia Keys album over the weekend! Love this girl and her music is brilliant. One of the tracks is called "Wait 'till you see my smile." Some of the lyrics read:

When the wind is blowing in your face

sometimes in life you don't see straight

Pray to Him

He will show ... //

When your head is in a certain place

Nobody around to make you safe

Stand strong and you will grow //

Don't they love to see you down

Kick you while you are on the ground

Don't let emotions show //

This song inspired me to face the day and not let emotions get me down. And I'd like to urge you, sincerely, try to smile despite your circumstances. The universe will teach us important lessons and learning them will never be easy or 'nice.' In tough times we forget our blessings and only focus on the negative. It becomes a vicious circle of depression in which you become more negative by only focusing on that. The challenge in this is to find a solution. Only ever focus on that. Solution, solution, solution. And, guess what, you have to find this yourself. Friends are there to support and that is something you should appreciate, yet, you have to lift your own chip up. You are most certainly able to, that is the one thing I've learnt and guarantee! None of us are born for no reason. You are meant to become stronger, wiser, and better off. When it takes us longer, it's just that we are not ready yet and still need to learn a few more lessons. So, the sooner we find solutions, the sooner we will grow and achieve the success of 'the next level.'

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I am also very grateful for people that help me to achieve growth in my own career. And last Saturday I had an awesome photoshoot with one of South Africa's most talented photographers. She is professionally known as the 'Blonde Zulu'

http://blondezulu.co.za

I have added an album to my Facebook Page. Please join the group on FB and leave your comments there. Thank you!

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Have a blessed day!

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