Have a blessed holiday!!

Work is winding down and on Friday we're closing up shop, jetting off to a well-needed holiday to recharge those batteries! This year went by like a steam train on extra hot coal - so many great moments to consider and be grateful for. I need to wish everyone in my life a very blessed festive season, whatever it is you're celebrating, even if just being holiday!

We have to reflect on the things we are privileged to have in our lives. There's always something to be happy about, trust me! To appreciate the greater power of the Universe which guides and nudges us gently onto the path towards our destiny. I predict 2010 to be a great year! And it will be a great year for everyone that plans to make it one.

I will be jetting off to Durban on Friday, to shoot/produce TV inserts of the Top 12 finalists in 2010's Mr SA contest. On Tuesday next week, I'm flying through to Cape Town and driving to the West Coast to spend quality time with my family. Have a blessed holiday, and get back safely in January 2010!!!

XX

Invictus

Learning more about the title of this new Hollywood movie (which is about a South African story), truly inspired me! The Latin word 'invictus' means "unconquerable" - and is also the title of a poem by William Ernest Henley. I am proud to be South African and the great opportunities I have in this country. Fighting for success and standing up from the dust that life throws into your face is everyone's story. Mandela spent 27 years in prison and could have hated the white man for putting him there, instead, he united a country and served all its citizens. He wrote this poem on a piece of paper during his incarceration. We often hate our lives only to realize it's honestly not that bad.

Here's the poem. Have a blessed weekend!!

Out of the night that covers me,

Black as the Pit from pole to pole,

I thank whatever gods may be

For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance

I have not winced nor cried aloud.

Under the bludgeonings of chance

My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears

Looms but the Horror of the shade,

And yet the menace of the years

Finds and shall find me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,

How charged with punishments the scroll

I am the master of my fate:

I am the captain of my soul.

Finding the turn

It's a message I got this morning and one that inspires me to face each day with a heart full of gratitude. And, the greatest achievers, most successful business leaders, movie stars and entrepreneurs concur - when you think it's the end of the road, it's actually just a turn that you need to take.

It has been a rough year for me. Partly, due to my own inability to cope with a changing environment - which is the definition of stress. I have been too emotional and stubborn. I did not find the balance, and I have beaten myself up over minuscule issues. I have blamed people unnecessarily instead of clearing up my own insecurities. But I have also worked hard at being a good friend, producing better work, and searching my soul for ways to help other people.

I appreciate rough times, since I have learnt that challenges are there to provide us with tools and lessons to be better equipped for the future.

Some people do not understand good advice, and perhaps will reject your friendship, or feel different towards you, yet through real love we can take comfort in the fact that being a good friend often means challenging someone.

It's that time of the year where we can look back, and take stock. I truly believe that in every negative lies a positive. We just need to learn how to find it. Every year has its share of bad times and good times. When things go horrible, we forget the good moments. We focus on the negative and forget that finding a solution will actually create a positive. Expecting it to happen is not a solution. The same goes with people we detest. When you balance the negative attributes out with positive ones, you'll soon find that it's really not that bad. And gone are all those feelings of irritation, hatred, disappointment and/or sadness.

Keeping my chin up - I have a lot to be grateful for!

XX

Our team interviewed Morgan Freeman yesterday about his role as Nelson Mandela in the movie 'Invictus' which is about South Africa's transformation period around 1994/1995 when our said president stunned everybody by embracing the Springbok rugby team - if you're in South Africa, watch our exclusive inserts tomorrow evening (Thursday, 19.00 CAT on Vuzu channel 123).

Work's been pushing me (almost) into the ground, which is good since it means that I learn more about TV production! Unfortunately, in these times, gym comes second... This morning however I managed to have a solid hour & half session, and damn it felt good! I eat very healthy and stick to a strict diet which helps when there's not enough time to train properly (at least, not on a daily basis). I always know that I will get time for gym, cos I MAKE time for it. Never make excuses to train! ;)

Our working year is almost coming to an end. Business closes on 18 Dec after which I'll be jetting off to Durban to shoot the 2010 Mr SA finalists for our TV show. On 22nd I'm off to Cape Town, spending time with the family for Xmas! Hopefully, for New Year's, I'll be partying it up in Cape Town as well. Haven't even gotten round to buying any gifts... urgh. Dunno when? Lol. In the meanwhile, just gotta get things wound up and close-up shop! :)

Finding the sweet spot!

In life you'll go through those moments of happiness and ecstatic jubilations, mixed with real shitty times when you just feel like throwing in the towel! It's a pity that we get ourselves down like that since it ultimately damages our general well-being and health. It's about finding the sweet spot. Plucking up the courage to stand up, walk through the wind-tunnel, sand in the face, and make it through to the other side. People will change, loved ones might get bored with you and look for temptations, though you must be strong and not slip. Let the fools look for every corner of easy satisfaction and quick pleasures. As I wrote previously, people have different values, and if you try and live someone else's life or change someone, you will only find unhappiness. I can't force someone to like me more. Just as you can't force someone to avoid being tempted into things that are possibly a little more interesting. People get bored. The only hope is to believe in your own heart's true love; and trust that the person you are with will appreciate this, be disciplined and return the love you provide. In life, things will change. It's inevitable. If you are true to yourself, believe in your strengths, and not constantly compare yourself to others, you will find the sweet spot. The spot where you will attract people, make friends, find love, enjoy life, and achieve your goals. The spot where you don't worry anymore what people think, whether they think you're hot or not, muscled or not. You will find satisfaction in what you have, who you are, and those that really feel the love, will show it in return. I have to work hard at finding my sweet spot, every single day. Sometimes it's more challenging. I have to focus on what I can achieve. Don't be distracted by disappointment. Whether it's in the way people behave towards you, or change towards you, or in your career/work. There is a sweet spot. I know. Bite on your teeth, clench your fists, be alone, be frustrated and feel lost... it will be brief. The sweet spot will be found. I believe in it. I swear.

Finding the solution

Thanks to Louis Botha for another sample from the most recent shoot. Pic attached here.

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So last night's show was awesome. I interviewed Dave Keuning, lead guitarist of The Killers, and then saw the live gig at the Dome in Northgate, Johannesburg (South Africa). The interview was certainly not a highlight, though I really enjoyed the concert. The guys put up a great show with magnificent lighting effects, superb sound and performing all their hits! The show opened with a dazzling array of pyrotechnics and went straight into the biggest current hit, "Human." Professional rock artists with real talent, they deserve all the success!

See pics from last night's concert below. The lead singer, Brandon Flowers, seems to be a very popular guy too.

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The Demartini talk of Wed evening is still lingering in my mind. He spoke about stress, and, among other things, the type we experience in relationships. Problem is that we often try to change people, because we use our own set of values to judge other people. See, all of us have an inherent set of individual values - 'rules' you live by, things you like/dislike, etc. Then we project these values onto someone else and expect them to live up to ours. This causes an imbalance and results in emotional stress. The trick is to understand that everyone has their own values, and by accepting this fundamental reality, you will strike a balance and experience love, instead of resentment. You can't only have one side - someone that likes all the things you do, only gives support, only stays happy, only shares, only smiles, only enjoy good times, etc, etc. I have learnt that those people who challenge and care are the ones that really love you. Parents that spoil kids all the time, end up having children that stay dependent. Demartini spoke of his childhood and how his dad made him do garden work for extra pocket money. The 9-year old Demartini ended up renting equipment from his dad and started doing the gardens of all their neighbours too. His dad could have spoilt him with extra pocket money, instead he taught him a business lesson about financial freedom. Having his own money (which he earned), to buy his own things. Giving someone advice, or trying to teach, will not always come across as 'nice' or even 'friendly,' yet, once we understand this, and look for the lesson, the solution, and how we can turn an obstacle into an opportunity, that's when true success will be our destiny.

Have a blessed weekend.

XX

Buzzzing!

It's been a while since we were this busy! Sho! Hectic days, mostly due to the fact that we are recording extra shows for the Dec holiday period - which leaves me with something to look forward to at least. *sigh* hehe :)

The Killers shoot is now happening tomorrow evening - we are meeting the band at 6Pm, with some exclusive backstage passes, and then watching the show from the media area in front of Golden Circle. I have to do some research today; not really all that clued up on the band!

Gym this morning was power! I pushed some legs and then decided, why not train a little arms as well. Finished off with some hardcore crunches and oblique exercises. I felt like death ...lol... but it's a great sensation to have trained properly.

All Access!!

The Las Vegas punk-rock band 'The Killers' is currently visiting South Africa as part of their Day & Age World Tour, and I am lucky enough to be interviewing the band backstage this coming Friday! In TV world, events like these prepares one for bigger moments and they are good stepping stones to becoming a more professional reporter/presenter or producer. I will certainly take pics & blog afterwards!

Once again a big shout out to photographer Louis Botha who shot my Styling Concepts fashion shoot on Sunday. I have put some samples on Facebook as well. Here's another one.

I'm out. Back to studio to prep our show for tonight. Laters. XX

The Fashion Shoot...

Talk about breaking boundaries with shoots - picture seen here is a sample from the photoshoot I had yesterday with Pretoria photographer Louis Botha. We decided to purposely push the limit in terms of previous work I've done. We experienced with make-up, darker looks, and also some other interesting angles and clothes. I will put more samples up once he has cleared them. Weird. Experimental. Exciting. Always good to have different looks as a model. =)

Paving your own road

*Sigh* here I was strolling into the office with a really positive vibe, only to find the 'wonderful' Monday troubles laid down on my desk like a chicken that decided to take a dump right there! Urgh. Now, a few notes today.

In my attempt to keep the positive vibe I'd like to write about Justin Bonello. This guy successfully financed & produced his own TV show, pitched it to the BBC in London and now runs his own production company in Cape Town, as well as producing & presenting a very successful cooking show that has been broadcast in several countries not just the UK. Taking the risk, not knowing whether the money he spent will pay-off, and whether the BBC will buy the show from him.

Furthermore, I am reading Tim Ferriss' book "The 4-hour work week" which is hopefully going to persuade me to do whatever it takes to join the 'New Rich' - which is a term he uses to describe people that break away from the daily grind and do what they love mostly, but also earn good cash.

Then, on Wed & Thur my favourite speaker, Dr John Demartini will be in town (Jhb) for 2 talks - turning stress to success, and, business in 2010. He is one of the world's greatest speakers and writers, I would recommend his books to everyone.

Finally, I had a satisfying photoshoot on Sunday morning, this time focusing more on fashion as opposed to fitness. It went well. As soon as I have samples I will post here.

Hope that you have a better day. If not, go out and buy the book "From Stress to Success" by Dr John F Demartini.

XX

About Justin Bonello's company & show:

www.cookedinafrica.com

New Year's Resolutions - start now!!!

"Ayoba!!" Hahaha, that is a new word used in South Africa for approving of something that's very cool! On the other hand, if it's just not happening or right, then it's "not ayoba!" For example, working out at gym and making loud 'sigh' noises when you push the weights, is NOT Ayoba!

2010 is upon us and it will be a hUge year for all South Africans, mostly soccer/football fans since the World Cup will kick off in June 2010. I can't wait! And, even more reason to get those pages filled up in the year planner. By 25 December everyone starts talking about what they'd like their New Year's resolutions to be. By 2 January there's already a new list. And later in the year half of those things are forgotten. I reckon start jotting down some ideas today. What you need to do to achieve your goals, and a plan of action. Not just talking about your "dreams" for the future. That is pointless. Getting into gear for 2010 means knowing what your plans are, and how to execute them. Having a plan, is most certainly, AYOBA!!! Have a blessed weekend and return safely back on Monday!! XX

(PS: Pics attached from gym this morning - once again, keeping fit and healthy, as opposed to building right now. Bulking is the next phase. Now, just need the extra hour in the day for a harder push!)

The 4-hour workweek!!

(Pic on left from gym this morning - for now, maintaining, keeping the lines in shape and eating right. Bulking up will be my challenge when work's taken care of by end Nov. I will not stop training though!)*

Now, I have to share my thoughts on a blog that I recently discovered. From the author of the New York Times bestseller book, "The 4-Hour Workweek," Tim Ferriss writes about productive/healthy lifestyle designs. I don't really like 'self-help' books, though one can never learn enough from those that have achieved success. Ferriss often highlights the tricks of the trade when it comes to being more efficient. For example, not wasting time on emails, and checking these at specific times in your day (only). Also, being on Facebook has proven to be one of the biggest sources of distraction for most people at the office. It's even said to slowdown brain activity. Hectic. Creative and productive work etiquette is about working with a schedule, and filling each hour of your day. You need to have a tempo. This way you'll find that there is actually plenty time in the day to get work done, and soon enough you'll find that you might find more time for extra tasks. There is a comment on the blog that Ferriss writes, "if you are really effective at what you do, 95% of the things said about you will be negative. Keep your head on straight, don't get emotional, take the heat, and just make sure your clients are smiling." It's all about striking the balance and managing it correctly. I think it's an acquired skill, and you need to hone it.

*On another note, I did a photoshoot last night for Christmas wallpapers/screensavers - which will be available to download from local mobile wap/websites. Have a lookout for that. Once I have a sample that's cleared, I will post it here. Complete with Santa hoodie (though dressed in matching red-underwear only, lol) and some Xmas deco draped around me. Funny stuff, ah well.

Have a blessed day!!!

Check out: www.fourhourworkweek.com/blog >>>

Be inspired!

Learning from other people's stories is the main reason why I enjoy reading biographies or watching movies about successful people. On Saturday evening friends and I went to see the movie* 'Julie & Julia.' Now, at first glance, it might appear to be a female-oriented story, however, the underlying story of following one's heartfelt passion is honestly truly inspiring. Forget the fact that Meryl Streep is our time's best actress, or that it's about two women cooking up a storm, the real story would appeal to anyone that wants to find a purpose in life. Something to do. The line "what could I do with my life," is often heard in this movie. And then answered so simply, "do what you love doing!" Lol. We go through life blinded by daily chores, our jobs, fears of the troubles in this world and forgetting that living your life at the expense of your own passions & loves, will only make you live with regrets, be lonely, and ultimately, feel depressed (because you'll find the days empty!). Immediately after the movie I was thinking about blogging. In the movie, the main character, Julie Powell, starts to write a blog about her experience of cooking through Julia Child's cookbook. It's a challenge since the book has more than 500 recipes and she gives herself 365 days to complete this task. What made me think was the blog writing. The purpose. The minute she had something to do with her life, her mundane/bureaucratic job suddenly seemed , well, empty. She found her passion, and needless to say, became a writer. And, I would like to guess that the secret in finding happiness is finding purpose in life. Then things fall into place. (Never without a challenge, and never without bad times). Now, if nothing else provides you with a satisfying challenge, create one. And start today with completing this challenge.

*On another note, I also saw the second installment in the Twilight Saga, 'New Moon,' and wow the cinematography, the love story, the actors, great movie!!

One positive thought per day

I am thoroughly enjoying Donald Trump's latest book of essays on successful living - entitled "Think Like a Champion." One of the essays speaks about positive thinking. Trump refers to the theory of 'positive thinking attracting good things & success,' however, so many people simply ignore this basic fact of life. We ignore what several books & successful speakers tell us - to focus on positive thoughts in order to attract success. Now, obviously, be realistic about this. As Trump writes, thinking positively that he'll be an Olympic gold medal-winner overnight will not make it happen. The point is, force yourself to find things in your daily life, in the moment, that you can appreciate, and use it positively. There are several - just browse through this day and you'll find it. What I've also learnt is that every negative in life has a balancing positive. Trust me, if you see 10 negatives, there are also 10 positives to the same situation. And when life challenges you it is to make you grow, or learn from it. If we only think of the negative to each situation, we won't find the solution, and will never grow. If you are not open to being challenged on a daily basis, then you are not destined for success. Now, if you only do this one thing, go to a book store, and buy any book that you think will teach you something or inspire you. It's a good, positive, start. Do it now!

Have a blessed day! XX

Do I smell summer?

It is November and I am very happy to see the sun and smell the soft summer's breeze - almost time to hit the pool, or, even better, get to the coast and spend lazy days on the beach! Hope you have a smooth & awesome Friday & weekend! XX

Brothers in arms

There is a song by Dire Straits (written by lead singer Mark Knopfler), called "Brothers in arms," which made me think of the special bond that often exists between brothers. And I would like to take this opportunity and express my gratitude towards my brother. I am grateful to have a hard-working, ambitious, dedicated, grounded, trustworthy, strong, confident, and loving brother. I have utmost respect for him and what he's achieved thus far. And I know that he is destined for much more success in the future. Thank you boetie, you mean the world to me!

Pictured above, my brother and I with his first born son. May they be blessed.

XX

Stranger in Moscow

I was wandering in the rain, Mask of life, feelin' insane.. Swift and sudden fall from grace. Sunny days seem far away. Kremlin's shadow belittlin' me. Stalin's tomb won't let me be. On and on and on it came. I wish the rain would just let me...

How does it feel... how does it feel? When you're alone, and you're cold inside?

Here abandoned in my fame Armageddon of the brain; KGB was doggin' me; Take my name and just let me be
Then a begger boy called my name; Happy days will drown the pain
On and on and on it came; And again, and again, and again...
Take my name and just let me be...

How does it feel; How does it feel? When you're alone, and you're cold inside?

Like stranger in Moscow; Lord have mercy
We're talkin' danger; We're talkin' danger, baby
Like stranger in Moscow; I'm livin' lonely
I'm livin' lonely, baby...

- Michael Jackson R.I.P. (1959 - 2009)

Koflex Sports Nutrition - trying out new samples!

I am currently awaiting samples from the American based company, Koflex Sports Nutrition, and I'm excited to see the results of these products. Will give feedback soonest. In the meanwhile our productions are in over-drive for pre-recording extra episodes for the December period. We are not on-air from 21 Dec - 8 Jan. Whoohooo!! I'm still deciding on where to spend my New Year's and kinda considering Cape Town, since I will be on the West coast with my family anyway - for Christmas. Hope you got your plans already in check! And, of course, your plans for 2010. Gotta have a plan, or 2!

Have a blessed day! I'm off to gym!

XX

www.koflexsports.com

Good days go with bad days...

Being insecure and unsure of your own strengths can have a devastating effect on your emotions, your work, your creative output, and even your health. It is clearly a slow week for me at the gym - which is frustrating in itself. You get good days, and really bad days. So far I have been sluggish, feeling lethargic and not motivated at all. Is it the flu? Or perhaps my brain is just fried after a year of really hectic working hours! I have most certainly learnt a lot this year, and gained more experience in my field of TV production. Achievements come in slow when you are still trying to climb the ladder. One day, I know, I will get there too! When you reach November and the road seems a little deserted (as if the year went by without anything great that happened) it is not really the most welcoming feeling to greet December, and the Festive period. Is my blood sugar very low today? Dunno. Lol. I know one has to be inspired by the successes of other people, but when it just feels so damn hard to break out, geez, then it kills the spirit. For real. You start doubting yourself, your strengths, your path, your motivation. I read about problems being opportunities to grow; that we should see challenging times as a contest to win, and that each of us have so much potential, that we simply can't waste time to sit down and cry. The latter being inevitable. Boys also cry. So, I gotta face the day, stay focused on those goals written down on a scrappy piece of paper, dry my eyes and look ahead. It won't be easy. Success might not happen today. Perhaps for others close to you, but don't be discouraged. Find the strength inside your heart, it's there, and keep pushing the big block of concrete ahead. It will move. It has to.

XX

2010 - are you ready?

I woke up at 4AM this morning for my Heat 2010 calendar shoot. I will be featured with 11 other guys, including my friend Jaco de Bruyn*. He is the well-deserved winner of the 2009 Heat Manwatch competition, and, hopefully, will also do well in the upcoming Heat Hot 100 contest. On that note, I would like to say thanks & show my humble appreciation for a really great friend. *Thanks, Jaco, you're the best friend I could ever ask for! I have learnt so much from you and I'm looking forward to being mates with you until we sit on the stoep as old men and fart like donkeys, laughing about the 'good old days,' LOL. Much respect to you my friend - we'll make it far, I know! Just have the faith & perseverance.

The year 2010 is upon us. South Africa will be hosting the biggest sporting event in its history - the Soccer World Cup (during the month of June). I am excited to be part of this momentous occasion. That said, my little bit of advice for the day would be to ensure that you too have a plan for the new year. We often get into the routine of everyday life and forget to focus on our goals & ambitions. Start making your list of what you'd like to achieve in 2010, now! Then, make a list of what you need to do, to achieve those goals. Finally, make a third list of what you need to get rid of to pursue those goals. Surely, this will put you in a better position to grasp the urgency of working towards your dreams. If that all fails, just pick up Donald Trump's new book, "Think Like a Champion" - it's an easy read and will most certainly inspire you! A new year is always another opportunity to look ahead and get a little closer to the things you'd rather be doing.

Have a blessed weekend. Much love. XX

PS: Do yourself a favour and read this book! >>

Louis Botha shoot, outtakes

For those asking on my Facebook profile, herewith some outtakes from the shoot with Pretoria photographer Louis Botha. Enjoy.

Holding on ...

It's rainy day in JHB and although it cools the air it makes me feel sombre. I attended the South African premiere of the Michael Jackson movie/documentary "This is it" on Wed morning. It is a magical piece of film and I would certainly recommend you to watch it. Watching the sheer brilliance of a musical genius in the environment that was closest to his heart - the stage - makes one feel special. What made it even more amazing is the fact that it was of course to be the final rehearsals of his life. I read somewhere that the rehearsals were filmed at his request, and looking back at it, I can't help but wonder if he did not secretly think his death was close by. Weird, and sad, but something to think about. His performance, his energy, and his attention to every little detail in the production of the show shows the great master he was. Of course, fans would appreciate it more since the film features a lot of full-length songs from his repertoire. On that note I have to confess in saying that I often hold onto things, and people, for unnecessary long periods of time. Putting myself second, blaming myself for being a terrible person when I make other people unhappy. Yet, beating myself down just makes life feel worthless. I am a very loving person and often people walk all over that. In my nature I enjoy helping people, and giving. However, sometimes one ends up giving too much of yourself. Which is not fair on yourself. It's also not fair expecting anything in return when you give. Rather, do it for the love in your own heart. But don't lose sight of what your goals & ambitions are, and be true to yourself. Much love.

(Pic from MJ's This is It - movie & CD release out this week in SA).

"This is it!"

Yo! Writing from a crazy-busy production office where things are getting heated due to us pre-recording for December (so that a holiday is in order - probably from 18th Dec already) Yippy!! I realize several friends of mine are not Michael Jackson fans, however, in my opinion he was a musical genius and I am very excited for the worldwide release of the much anticipated docu-movie-musical feature called "This is it." Which will basically showcase the rehearsals and behind the scenes preparations for his concert tour which was supposed to kick off in London in June this year. The premiere happens at the same time in many locations across the world, and in South Africa it will be tomorrow morning at 3AM. Wow. Early morning for me, since our TV crew will also be filming the event for the TV show we produce. I am still very much excited. And I will report back. It's always tragic when talented people die (young) and even more so if it happens suddenly. We can't control emotions of other people, but we can give love & support. Somehow, sometimes, it seems hard to let go of a loved one. Whether it's due to death, or relationships breaking apart. The hardest part is letting go of someone that you thought you couldn't live without. But perhaps that's where the problem lies. We become too obsessively close to someone and then our emotions wreak havoc when we have to let go. I do believe that true love never goes away, sometimes it just gets blurred because we forget how much someone means to us. Let's appreciate the ones we have, the ones that are alive, the ones that really care, no matter what.

Once again, we gotta plan ahead!

It's a new week and I'm back at work - after a well needed break in Cape Town with the people I value most in my life - mother, father, brother, sister-in-law & cutest of all, my 6-month old nephew. I miss them everyday (living about 1000km's in another city) and being with my family puts life into perspective again. They are grounded people, especially since they farm and live in beautiful vineyard-surrounded landscapes. My dad always talks about 'saving your money,' and how 'hard work pays off'. On my flight back from Cpt to Jhb I sat next to a 39-year old lady who decided to call it quits in the business world. She's had enough of the "games & politics, having no life, and the stress!" For the most part I was eavesdropping while she chatted to another ex-colleague (male) sitting on the other side. She was flying up to Jhb to put her car (and herself) on a train back to Cpt. Her next venture was a small business in Hermanus (a confectionary shop with her mother). Eventually I plucked up enough courage and started speaking to her. I asked what she regrets the most about being a massively successful businesswoman. She replied, "probably, not having a life for more than 15 years. And, spending all my huge salaries on luxury cars, exotic overseas trips, and many a gift!" Then I asked her for one bit of advice, and she said, "planning! Always plan, because that is what many people don't do and then get stuck and depressed." Those words seem to be repeated by every single (business) person I speak to. My dad always says, if you lose your job today, have enough savings so that you could comfortably live for at least 6 months.

I have to discipline myself, get my emotions balanced, and love life for what it is. It is tough for me right now since I'm not entirely happy in Jhb but this is where I've settled and where my job is (for now). Sometimes I miss having the close-knit love & support of a family home, which I have, but it's not with me everyday. And, honestly, counting on friends is pointless. Never ever think that your friends owe you something, I've learnt that the hard way. Yet, I will always be there for any of my friends if they need my help. Go well. Be blessed.

Plant that tree today!!!

Yesterday I read news articles on business leader Warren Buffet. He once quipped the words, "someone is sitting in the shade today, because someone planted a tree a long time ago." It rings true for any investment banker or stock broker that is worth his/her, erm, money. Being patient is, unfortunately, an important lesson one learns, in the process of achieving success - investing your money, and then carrying on with life and not chasing every quick-satisfying whim you might have. It makes business sense to be patient, and the same applies to life in general. Young people often protest that living for the moment is what life is all about. True, to an extend. You can live for the moment, yes, and never save up your money, never plan ahead, never worry about tomorrow, and then, when bad times sneak up on you, where will you be, and who are you going to look in the face for help? I am not the wisest, and most certainly have not done my planning properly in the past either. I have made terrible investment mistakes, and wasted money on cars, luxury items and generally being careless in my lifestyle & attitude. However, we have to make these mistakes to realise what is best for us in the long run. I want to read about financial success stories, business leaders, inspirational people in our society. Leaders came to be successful for a reason. Come on. Don't tell me that life is short - life is short if you have no purpose! If it's too drastic to make sudden changes, then at least, attempt to strike a balance. If you want to have a good time, do it AFTER work, and when you know you can chill out and sit back for a little while. We need to plant that tree, so that in ten years' time we can sit under the shade of our own tree, and not pay someone to sit under their shade!!

I'm off to Cape Town tomorrow to visit my parents, brother, sister-in-law and my cute lil newphew 'Lourens.' Can't wait! If you read this, my wish to you is to have a blessed day!! XX

True friendship starts in your own heart

Listening to my iTunes and going through the memories of songs that take me back to moments in my life that were fun, sad, crazy & special times, with very special people. I've always said that music is the soundtrack of life. Love songs, party songs, rock songs, drunk-student songs, and so on. There are songs that remind me of meeting a very special person in my life. And songs that bring back memories of friends that are no longer with us. Which leads me to the question I was pondering today: are all friends in life merely passing ships? And what about being in love with someone? I once asked my mentor (a very dear lady who is also my nutritionist), about not being happy in a friendship, and she told me the following: "Good advice for happiness - Expect nothing from friends. Human nature is fickle. Be the best friend you can be, you are the only one you can control & trust. Your friend is a passing ship. Enjoy while he/she is in harbour and let go when he/she sails. You cannot possess or hold onto anyone. Expect the best from yourself and accept your friends as they are." Wise words, but hard to swallow. I find it hard to let go of something good, but sometimes it's nature's way of pushing you in a different direction. It's like learning new skills and expanding your intellect so as to become attracted to new things in life. Life is an ever-changing/growing experience. People grow out of friendships, and, perhaps, also out of love. Or do we? Inside my heart I believe that we can keep friends, and stay in love. For your entire lifetime. But it only happens to those that have mastered the 'tricks' of life/relationships. And most important is to grow with people, not out of them. But, unfortunately, we can't control this. We simply need to accept people for who they are, and let go of those things we don't like. Love the things that make other people happy for them, and you will find satisfaction & happiness in your own love. On a last note: give something to someone, the gift of giving will make you smile inside. For real. XXX

You're a personal trainer? Yeah, right...

So this morning at gym I noticed a number of new personal trainers. Skinny, short, shy guys that barely manage to spot someone lifting a 100kg on a bench press. I have a lot of respect for personal trainers and consider it a real job, not something random. However, seriously, if you're doing a job like that, at least fit the profile. I also see trainers that take a seat, next to their teeth-clenching, fist-wrenching, sweating at the balls-clients, doing a dumbbell exercise completely wrong, i.e. - dancing like a swing ball trying to lift the damn weights! No man, honestly, get outta there and sell pizzas at Scooters! That said, personal trainers should be approachable, friendly guys that are always keen to help, regardless of whether it's a client or not. This way you promote your business. Respect.

Anyway, on another note, seems like eating right, training hard and being disciplined do help, in the long run. Pics from gym are seen here - have a peaceful happy Thursday!!! XX

The David Letterman saga...

I just had to write about this too... The famous talk show host, David Letterman, who admitted that he had sexual affairs with some of his younger, female, staff members. Of course, most conservatives were horrified, and understandably so, however, he has proved that he is feeling sorry, doesn't take himself too seriously, and "has his work cut out for him" (referring to making it up to his wife, whom he evidently wants to stay with). In my view, when you've done something like that and feel truly bad about it, your real loved ones will forgive and forget. It's important to understand that being faithful is crucial in any relationship, unless you and your partner has an agreement of some sorts. Bottom line for me, if Dave Letterman doesn't take himself too seriously then take heed. We all make mistakes, and not the least of all, having sexual affairs outside a relationship. Shit happens. If it didn't mean anything, then why worry about it. In the end, you'll know who your true loved ones are. And they'll stand by you, no matter what. We often take life way too seriously. Chill out.

(Check out the video clip of Letterman apologising on You Tube).

Pump up those arms!

It's not easy to catch up on the 'backlog' of muscle-building when you've neglected parts of your body during previous years of training. I didn't train my arms properly and mostly focused on other areas such as chest & abs - hence my renewed motivation to train my biceps/triceps extra hard. The same goes for my shoulders. I am dedicated and motivated to get my body into a balanced shape. This would entail muscles being proportioned to body form and balanced at top & bottom. I am blessed with good calves, but upper legs need attention too. The first step of fitness & muscle training is to recognize which areas need attention, and then sourcing a training programme that would assist in building those muscles. Of course, changing your programme once a month is always a good idea! Keep cardio to a minimum if you'd like to build muscle, but a good cardio-session once a week is necessary for general fitness. On that note, gotta dash off (lol) and get back to making TV ...

Steroids

Changing your gym routine is very important else your muscles won't grow. I trained shoulders, obliques and legs this morning. Of course, doing legs right at the end. On another note, I found an article on the New York Times website relating to American Congress urging health authorities to clamp down on dietary supplements that might have illegal elements in them. Apparently certain companies enhance their supplements by adding steroids such as testosterone-boosting ingredients in order to create better results, and thus, better feedback from customers. When these customers see results, they evidently come back for more! I can't be too outspoken about steroids, only that I have heard from enough people that it's fairly common in this industry. Most guys (girls?) that gym professionally, "need" it. I'm not sure whether this need is warranted, but a fair amount of guys also prefer building muscle naturally. Bottom line is that most fitness fanatics, gym enthusiasts and bodybuilders use steroids since natural muscle growth is simply too slow or not good enough for competing in high profile competitions. Nutritionists and dieticians alike don't condone the use of steroids, for obvious reasons - abnormal intake of hormones that stimulate growth in the human body is not considered healthy. At least, not in the long run. I have grown (muscle) naturally and don't plan on taking any supplements soon. I am insistent on proving to myself that building muscle naturally is more sustainable and less damaging to organs/general health, however, it leaves me trailing slightly behind. I struggle to build as quickly as other (bigger) guys, and often lack energy or training power. Although I'm not anti-steroids, since I can understand their benefit(s), I just choose not to use it.

Peace!

Exciting Pictures!

I have to commend photographer Louis D Botha on the outcome of the shoot he did with me. He is not only able to capture raw emotion, but his after-effects and creative work seems to be very exciting (see pic). More samples from the shoot to follow soon!

Taking control

The story which caught my eye in the morning newspaper today referred to our national airline being jubilant about their profit-making success over the past year. Following news, I know that a year ago the management was fired after a R1 billion debt. They were in the red, and although government helped out, now, they're in the black. Amazing story. Not as amazing as realizing that bad management can really make the difference. And don't get me started on corruption! The point I want to make though is about pulling yourself together, and managing your life. It's a tough lesson and some of us only learn this later in life. "With a little help from my friends" might come in handy in this scenario, however, the decision still lies with you. And only you. It's fair to read, listen, take advice, learn from mistakes, but ultimately, take control, manage your life, because let's be honest, no one else cares as much about you, as yourself. People do care for you, and the closest friends and loved ones will always be a great supporting shoulder to lean on, which is important to appreciate and understand, but to find happiness inside yourself, you need to feel that you're managing your life. Hard work, dedication, planning, planning and more planning, educating yourself by reading/researching, and making hard-faced decisions about what you want out of life/not want - that will help you to actually manage your life. A good friend once told me, write down 5 things that you want to have in your life over next 2 years, then, write down 5 things you don't want in your life, over the next 2 years. Then, start getting rid of the things you DON'T want by managing the process of achieving what you DO want!

Now, get reading & writing, LOL.

XX

The curse of postponement...

There is evidently a curse that surrounds postponement. Let me explain. On a regular day, in the middle of the week, on my way to work (enjoying some random driving tunes in my car), slowly easing through traffic, my mind ponders off and for a few minutes I consider my life in different scenarios. (a) Being abroad (somewhere such as America); (b) Being filthy rich as a TV mogul, but alone; and (c) running my own business in the food industry living happily in Cape Town with my wife & kids. LOL. It's weird how we often wonder about how life in the future should be, but we never take any steps to get there...urgh!!! I call this the "curse" of postponement" - when, one day, you will sit on your stoep and regret not making decisions about taking your life in another direction, following your heart, and ensuring that you followed every possible step and turned every stone to look for ways of achieving your goals & dreams. Whether that be to work for a successful business, running your own company, traveling the world, or just being comfortable & living in a decent sized house (with a view) in a sought after neighborhood! Bottom line - putting off plans to do something with your life makes no sense in the long run. You'll only regret it later. Problem is, sometimes, along the way, we meet people, fall in love, and don't wanna move on. Which begs the question: In life, do we move towards people, or towards events? If you're happy being with someone, and settling in the daily run of the mill (in order to stay connected), then perhaps that could be satisfying enough to avoid running after other aspirations in life. I am twiddling my thumbs over decisions, decisions, and more decisions... grrr. Then emotions get in the way, doubt sets in, and I end up with a lack of perspective. *sigh* now it's Friday, and unfortunately, I'm not sure today whether I'm looking forward to the weekend. I'd rather get to a point where I can make clear-cut decisions, and move on. Not that easy. Perhaps over a tumbler of whiskey & ice, I will be able to!!

Have a blessed a weekend. XX.